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8 Parent Tech Tips I learned from a Police Detective

It’s always taken a village to raise a child well, but it’s even more important to link arms today as we battle our children’s growing dependency on technology.

As a parent of five kids on i-devices, I seek out wise mentors to help me in this arena. Balancing technology usage is the biggest battle I face raising my kids today.

Consider me part of your village as I pass on what I learn along the way. I recently gained this knowledge at a talk by Scottsdale Police Detective Tanya Corder and Dr. Lisa Strohman, Founder/CEO of the Technology Wellness Center, who witness the effects of technology on kids daily.

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7 Things Your Daughter Should Not Post on Instagram

223 likes.

527 followers.

We know that Instagram numbers matter to our daughters.

You are so perfect.

Love you so much.

The feedback our girls receive on their Instagram posts matters even more.

But does your daughter know what matters to you when it comes to her presence online?

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4 Technology Battles Parents Must Fight

Kids will battle boundaries placed on their technology. It’s their job to fight you on your dumb rules Mom and Dad.

It’s your job as a parent to stay in the ring and fight the good fight. The last thing you want to do is give your child an iPhone and then stick your head in the sand.

Parents, we must engage in the battles that come along with allowing our kids the privilege of today’s technology.

What battles are you willing to fight when it comes to your data draining screenager?

We’ve allowed our children to own smartphones and other technology, now it’s our job to teach them how to properly balance their digital temptations. If you’re the one paying for the devices, wifi or data plans, you’re the one in charge of setting the rules and sticking to them.

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Dear Overwhelmed Momma,

All too often we parents feel overwhelmed while raising our kids.

Our overwhelm paralyzes our parenting and we don’t accomplish all that we hope for our families. We’ve got a lot of ideas and things we want to do, but somehow another day passes without us actually implementing any of them.

Here’s a recent email that I received.

Dear Amy,

I have a young family with 4 children- daughter (7) twin sons (4) and daughter (2.5).  I feel so overwhelmed that my intentions get paralyzed and I don’t take the actions I want for our family.  I want to create traditions, I want to travel, I want more one on one time with my kids. I want to have family meetings and lessons but I’m too paralyzed and I’m not taking action.  I’m afraid that I can’t have the family of my dreams that I want to have. If you have any advice at all, I’m all ears.

Signed, Overwhelmed

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5 Things Parents Must Tell Their Children

We parents today are fantastic at telling our babies how wonderful they are at everything they do.

We slap stickers of their sports team logos and the schools they attend on the backs of the cars that we shuttle them around in.

We happily tout their sports victories and weekend wins on social media for all to see.

We parents are proud of our kids.

Perhaps what our kids need from us more than constant pats on the back is a healthier dose of reality. Along with telling Johnny what a gift to the world he is, we need to also make sure he understands these things…

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How to Stop Reacting to your Child’s Pleading Texts!

Forgotten homework. Instrument. Water bottle. PE Uniform. Lunch. Cell phone. And the list goes on.

You name it and our kids will forget it. And then they’ll want us to deliver it.

How do we respond, instead of react, to their pleas for help?

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4 Tips to Being an Intentional Tooth Fairy

I’ve been thrown into early retirement. Pushed out before my time.

My kids tiny, wiggly teeth have been replaced with mouths full of metal braces.

It’s hard to believe that my role as the Tooth Fairy is over.

Before I pack away my wings, I want to pass along some wisdom to you on National Tooth Fairy Day.

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Parents, this post is your warning…

As parents our days can be long. Dreadfully long when the kids are young.

It’s not until we catch a glimpse of our teens, as toddlers in an old photo, that the passing of time stops us in our tracks.

In that moment we’re reminded that our children really are racing toward childhood’s finish line and they will soon cross over into adulthood.

Why are we speeding through life so fast that it takes a Facebook reminder from years past to bring us to the realization that our kids really are growing up right before our eyes?

As parents our days can be long, but the years are definitely short.

We wanted babies. We wanted a fun and connected family. But ever since our bundles of joy arrived, we’ve struggled to keep up with their daily demands. We race through life without even putting much thought into what we’re doing or why we’re even doing it in the first place.

We must slow down.

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In Arizona, photo radar cameras wait to catch speeding offenders in my neighborhood. There is a sign to warn us that the camera is ahead, but sometimes our distracted selves only pay attention after the flash goes off in our face and we’ve been caught racing through life again.

It’s only when we get caught that we realize we missed the warning sign and speeding toward our destination will now cost us.

Pretend that this blog post is that yellow warning sign for you. It’s a friendly reminder to slow the heck down because just ahead your child will be turning 18. He will soon head out the door into the real world and parenting as you know it will be over.

And just like I don’t want to see you get that speeding ticket in the mail, I don’t want you to get to your firstborn’s high school graduation and wonder how it all went so fast.

Everyday distractions keep us from focusing on what’s really important in our families. None of us want to get to the end of this full time parenting gig and say, I should’ve been more present. Or I should’ve made better choices and decisions to create moments with my child while I had the chance.

We only get one opportunity to cultivate a childhood, so we must slow down and make the most of the time we have left. Decide today to plan out what you want for your family this year and then the next and then the one after that. Don’t speed through life without an intentional destination or it may just cost you.

Parents our days are long, but they aren’t long enough.

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4 Ways to Create Meaningful Traditions in a Glass Jar

We read posts about various traditions created within a glass jar. We love the ideas, we’re motivated while reading about them, yet we never get around to actually accomplishing one ourselves.

The post about the Christmas jar tradition will start making it’s rounds around Facebook in December and we’ll be reminded that we had wanted to do that but didn’t. We need to see that post now and not when we’re supposed to actually be delivering the thing.

Let’s turn our intentions into action and start that meaningful glass jar tradition now.

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You are dying. Live like it.

What if you knew you were going to die this year. Would that change the way that you lived?

Would you make different choices and decisions in your family because you knew there was an end?

I stood in the high school gymnasium bleachers, chatting with a friend about our plans for the upcoming winter break. She said their family was booked to go on a cruise but that there was a basketball game scheduled now, so they didn’t think they were going to be able to go.

I asked her, “if you knew you were going to die soon would you go on the cruise?”

Yes. All day long yes.

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