How was your summer?

It’s THE question we adults ask one another as the kids head back to school. Sure the last day of summer is officially in September, but for us parents of school-aged kids, vacation is over.

How was your summer? 

“Good,” I say, unsure how to honestly answer the question. I find myself responding like my children do, when I ask the blanket question ‘How was school today?’

Good.

Good means you didn’t ask the right question.

Let’s try again.

There was no cruise around exotic Islands or an RV trip around the USA to fuel exciting stories this summer. No rented Tuscan villa or an annual Mission trip to Mexico either. Therefore, summer feels just ‘good,’ until you rephrase the question.

Did you have a significant summer?

Yes. Why yes we did. Thank you for asking.

Sometimes we mistake visiting faraway places and traveling to exciting destinations as being significant. And sometimes amazing vacations can absolutely be significant while other times they are simply a pretty diversion to normal life, but taken without real purpose.

Snapshots of Our Significant Summer

Indy family pic

So what? It’s a photo of my side of the family all together on a pretty summer day back home again in Indiana. Except for the fact, that our family struggled relationally for a long time, so having us all together is rare. Our trip to Indy was an investment in further rebuilding my relationship with my sister. The smiles and love here are beginning to feel genuine. Praise God, as we started off our summer significantly

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This sweet moment speaks for itself. Grandfather and grandson sharing the same passion.

Camp Car

Mid-June means time to get the kids from Phoenix to Kanakuk in Branson, Missouri. This is the second summer we let our kids go to camp and here are visual reminders of why we give up precious time with them in order for them to grow and thrive without us.

Morgan and friends
Everyone is better surrounded by a tribe, especially when there’s no technology involved. Genuine smiles with new friends are priceless.

Cole repellingSeeing our kids grow spiritually, mentally, and physically while at camp is awesome!

Prayer at Kanakuk

Our kids aren’t even in this picture, but this photo embodies exactly why we let our kids go off to this camp. I want my sons surrounded by other men who aren’t afraid to love the Lord and one another.

Kade and Aidan K2Simple fun in the sun is exactly how some summer camp days should be spent.

Morgan Camp

Yes. Please wonderful college camp counselors. Pour into my daughter and teach her to be strong in her faith and in her relationships.

Foster-Care-Move-In-DayAfter camp, we welcomed Nix into our family. My sons help their new little brother move his things from his foster home into ours.

Kade comforting

Our family trip to California meant taking Nix to the ocean for the first time. I loved watching my family make sure he was taken care of.

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Aidan and Nix

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Sara and IRelationships are a priority in a significant summer. Lucky to spend quality time with my friend, Sara as she planned a day at Terranea for us to celebrate our birthdays!

Us at LaPosadaTime away from kids and the daily grind is a necessity once in a while. Keith and I found a gem while overnighting at the LaPosada in Winslow, AZ.

Amy at Chimaya

I took five days this summer for myself at an amazing writing retreat in Santa Fe, New Mexico. I never wanted to leave this sacred spot at Chimaya.

What was significant about your summer? Look back through your photos for those little moments that really make you smile because that is what life is about. Maybe summer was way better than ‘good’ after all.

How do you feel when you walk into a bathroom, sit down, look over and see an empty cardboard tube where a fluffy white roll should reside?

Desperation sets in as you scan the area for something you may be able to pass off as wipe worthy. No such luck, so you start calling out hoping that someone can hear your plea.

Anyone? Can you PLLEAASSSEEE bring me some toilet paper?

I’m trying to teach my kids to fill needs before someone has to ask or call for their help.

This empty toilet paper roll symbolizes how some people choose to live their lives.

Entitlement is walking out of a bathroom knowing you are leaving the next person high and dry. Aware that there is a need and that you’re not willing to put forth the effort to fill it.

I know it sucks when you are the person who gets to the end of the roll and you question why this always happens to you. Just change the roll. Do unto others as you’d want done for yourself.

How you do anything is how you do everything.

This is one of our family mottos. If you’re being lazy in simple tasks, most likely you’re doing it in big arenas as well.

I was in a life coaching class and a grown woman was talking about how her husband was frustrated because she didn’t change out the toilet paper rolls in their house and that she was going to start trying to do it.

Yes, that empty toilet paper roll staring at him screams that you matter more than he does.

With teen sons, this is what I see most often in their bathroom. I’ll take it. It’s a step in the right direction.

toilet paper roll

Acknowledge a need and do your best for the person who comes behind you. Don’t wait for someone to have to scream HELP before you come to their rescue.

Let’s do a better job of replacing the empty toilet paper rolls in life for one another!

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“Hey guys, want to go to the Grand Canyon this weekend?”

“No thanks.”

“That’s too far.”

“I’m so glad I have to work.”

“I’m not doing that.”

Excuses, excuses fly from the mouths of our four teenagers who seem done with family adventuring and memory-making.

That’s why you do a 7-month family sabbatical around the USA and hit as many National Parks as you can before your kids become teenagers! We had our foursome exactly where we wanted them in 2014 when we wore out our National Park pass traveling 44 states by RV.

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Summertime is here and the living is easy, right?

Or is it actually more difficult?

As a parent summer brings a different rhythm than the one we’re used to living throughout the school year. How do we take advantage of this slower pace and plan for a summer of significance?

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As another school year winds down, we feel proof of how quickly time passes. Many of my friends are graduating a high school senior and contemplating how it all went so fast.

Do you know how many weeks you have from the day a child is born until he or she graduates from high school?

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What makes a good Mom?

They ask the foster girl I mentor what makes a good Mom and she doesn’t have an answer.

She finally says a good Mom would take her places and buy her things. The team of professionals assigned to her don’t like the answer. But, when I went home that day and asked my own four what makes a good Mom, they answered the exact same way.

What makes a good Mom?

It’s a loaded question with infinite answers.

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Dear Teacher of my Beloved Middle School Student,

It’s that time of year that I have been asked to send in daily treats of Monday’s flower, Tuesday’s favorite snack, Wednesday’s gift card, Thursday’s school supply and Friday’s personal note all in the name of National Teacher Appreciation Week. I thought that in middle school perhaps I would be free of this daunting schedule, put out lovingly by our APT, but obviously, that is not the case. The problem is, I’m in the business of picking parental battles and asking my 14-year-old son to carry a flower for you on to the bus, isn’t one I’m willing to fight for. Please don’t take this personal.

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Sedona is a must-visit destination whether you are visiting or live in Arizona.

From Phoenix, Sedona is an easy 2-hour drive north. Take the I-17 north to the AZ-179 N exit, EXIT 298, toward Sedona.

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GET YOUR HIKE ON

Buy your Red Rock Hiking Passes at the Visitor Center/Ranger Station

This will be your first stop to pick up maps of the area and to get info on any trails to hike in Sedona. You want to buy your Red Rock daily hiking passes here which cost $5 a day. You need a pass for a lot of the trails and definitely at the ones I tell you about here. Make sure you stop at this location coming into Sedona. *Beware of all the places that pose as visitor centers in town, but are really timeshare sales hubs.

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We couldn’t resist posing with no other than Smokey the Bear!

Park at the Bell Rock Pathway Trail Head

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As parents, we have an essential role to play when it comes to modeling generosity. It’s up to us to make sure giving and serving others are a priority in our homes.

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I’m not exactly sure how I ended up at Bob Goff’s house loving life with complete strangers in his San Diego backyard. I’m pretty sure the other 59 people alongside me would tell you the same thing. I can only give the glory to God for inviting me. Read more