Grown & Flown: Book Review and Reader Giveaway!

As a parent of three sons on the verge of adulthood, one daughter right behind them and one son in middle school, Grown & Flown is one of my favorite websites for all things parenting older kids. Not only have I gained wisdom and insight from this popular online parenting resource, but I have also been blessed to write for G&F as well.


Lisa, Mary Dell and I at Mom 2.0 Summit in Austin!

Grown & Flown cofounders, Lisa Heffernan and Mary Dell Harrington, have expanded on the online content from their #1 site for parents of teens and young adults and compiled all of their wisdom for those of us following in their parental footsteps into this beautiful hardback book.

The Dynamic Duo teamed with physicians, psychologists, educators, and writers, to produce this essential guide for building strong relationships with our teens and preparing them to launch into adulthood successfully. I love that both of our books feature a paper airplane on the cover too. Great minds (and great publishers) think alike!


The book Grown & Flown: How to Support Your Teen, Stay Close as a Family and Raise Independent Adults is a one-stop resource for parenting teenagers, leading up to- and through- high school and those first years of independence. This 335-page book is packed full of advice and wisdom from professionals and parents who have gone before us. You will want to dig through and take what works for you and leave behind what doesn’t.

The book is organized by topic: family life, mental health, academics, college admissions, separating and letting go, college life, and more. The unique chapter topics make it easy to decide what you want to read, depending on your current parenting stage.


7 Messages You May Need to Read in the New Book Grown & Flown:

  • Why you may want to trust your teen instead of track them
  • 5 signs you may be overparenting your student
  • How to demonstrate loving support to your student instead
  • Why we want and need, to raise intrinsically motivated students 
  • 15 valuable lessons from a high school teacher
  • Why you may want to rethink the 4-year university path for your child
  • Our parental role in helping our child choose a college

In the book, there is an excellent resource that I am saving for next summer on 50 Questions to Ask Before You go Dorm Shopping. I thought I would buy a Bed-in-A-Bag and call it a day. Apparently not. So, I look forward to digging into this section of the book when it’s time to send our sons off to college next year!

If you are parenting teens or college-aged kids, let me know why Grown & Flown’s new book would be an excellent resource for you. Leave a comment below for your chance to win your very own hardback copy!

Winner will be chosen by random on September 17, 2019. Must be a US resident to win for shipping purposes.

Don’t want to wait? Order your copy at a discount off Amazon HERE!

Want to read my work online at Grown & Flown? Click HERE!



10 replies
  1. AmyRyb
    AmyRyb says:

    I have a very tricky tween who just started middle school yesterday in a high school building, so I feel a little like we’re hitting the teen years early. He’ll have a front row seat to watching high schoolers in action, and it’s exciting (for him) and terrifying (for me) at the same time. Finding that balance between independence and still guiding him in the places where he needs it is challenging. I’d love the book to get a head start on trying to do this tween/teen thing right from the get-go, or at least lay the right foundation where I can.

  2. Annette S
    Annette S says:

    I have had a high schooler for only one month and am already lost! I also have an advanced 7th grader who is following closely behind her older sister. From navigating schedules to college preparations, school has changed so much since I went through it all. I will take all the resources I can get! And while I greatly trust my kids and they are definitely not over-parented, I’d also love to help them learn to motivate themselves more to discover their passions as well.

  3. Teresa
    Teresa says:

    Our daughter just started her junior year and we just realized she has NO study skills. Apparently she never needed that skill before. Having just read the articles on the website I can see there is probably a lot more that I don’t know that she needs to know! I can’t wait to dive in deeper with this knowledge. Thanks for stepping in to help us all with these years and arming us with the tools for success?

  4. Becky Vinyard
    Becky Vinyard says:

    Both of my girls are leaving childhood behind and becoming young women. How do I steer them toward their careers? How do I make sure I’ve raised them with character and what do I do when I discover they are lacking in an area? How do I let go, knowing our relationship is quickly evolving from mama to mother? And, how do I get my husband through this as his baby girls grow up, because he’s a wreck?! 😄

  5. Leslie
    Leslie says:

    Thanks for coming to speak at our Desert Mountain High School PTO meeting. I love following your blog. Just shared your Screenagers YouTube to our PTO FB page!

  6. Julie
    Julie says:

    Hi Amy – I am new to your blog, but am an older (51 and my husband is 58)) parent with 3 young children – a 5 year old and 4 year old twins. While we did not have the opportunity to start our family until much later in life, the benefit is that we are really making a significant effort to parent very intentionally. The resources I have found make such an impact on my parenting style. I am finding it very helpful not only to read books on the stages my children are in now, but also ones for teen years as it helps me make sure I am setting the right path now. Thanks for sharing and I look forward to ordering your book.

  7. Meggan VanNess
    Meggan VanNess says:

    My girls are 17 and 15 and I feel like I am constantly questioning if I am doing the right thing with them. The irony is I am a high school counselor, so you would think I have the answers, but it is more apparent that guiding my own children through the college process is very different than helping someone else’s child.

    • Amy Carney
      Amy Carney says:

      Hi Meggan, You are the winner of the hardback copy of Grown & Flown’s new book! Check your email for details. Thanks to everyone for commenting and be sure to watch out for October’s book resource giveaway!


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